Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Beware: Adoption should not cause years of therapy
It seems everywhere I turn adoption is brought to my attention. Whether it is the Facebook ads promoting adoption as an option for me, my own experience as an adoptee or somehow brought up in a television show. My gripe today is with the television shows. I watched 3 shows last night all bring up adoption as a sappy, struggle. Okay, for the birth parents, especially the birth mother I totally sympathize. Giving up your newborn child sounds like one of the hardest things to go through. Just thinking about giving away my dog to new owners brings tears to my eyes. However, when it comes to being an adoptee I don't want to hear it. I am an adoptee and I am here to tell you first hand it is nothing to bitch about. Sure, I have some crazy ass stories, some might come across sad, but it is nothing to feel pity upon adoptees for (or at least those adopted as babies). Images of little orphan Annie (still one of my favorite musicals) are not an accurate depiction of the process. I had the privilege of being raised by parents who genuinely, desperately wanted me in their life. I have participated in my share of therapy and sure here and there stories related to being adopted came up, but for the most part it is a breeze. Do not fall victim to these messages of adoption being full of heartache, remorse and years of therapy. It is a positive, life experience full of joy and a lifetime of stories.